Dating Advice for Women Series

Today is the first day of the  Chinese Year of the Dragon— A year of good fortune and a great time to take action and make your dreams come true.  Most auspicious!  A fantastic time to make simple changes that lead to big and wonderful life transformations.

So I wanted to share this inspirational email that Joanne, a woman who was in our Love Mentoring program, wrote to her Mentor:

“I’m writing to share my GREAT news with you! Mike and I GOT ENGAGED last Tuesday night in Walt Disney World (my happiest place on Earth, next to wherever I am with him!). He chartered a private yacht and while the Wishes fireworks were going over Cinderella’s castle, he proposed to me in such a romantic way. It was everything I could have ever dreamed! We are planning a June wedding. We also just purchased a townhome and are moving in soon.

This past Thursday was one year since we met for coffee. And he wanted me to make sure I told you that it was one of the photos I wore red (remember you told me this was a good color to wear?) and had professionally done, that made him contact me! I had told him about Love Mentoring and remember well our great phone sessions. I wanted to make sure I told you and to of course, thank you so much! Please do pass this along to Dr. Diana.”

The interesting thing about Joanne’s email is it shows how a simple change can make all the difference in your life!  Research shows that men rate women who wear red as more attractive.   And also, they are drawn to women who show an hourglass figure.  So Joanne’s Love Mentor asked her to wear a red scoop top in her online dating photos.  He also asked her to have them professionally done (but not so they looked posed.)

Just taking your time to create a really good online dating photo like Joanne did is a very powerful thing to do.  I know, I know, it seems like it requires too much time and energy, and maybe like it is a pain in your you-know-what to get new photos.  And you may feel like you ALWAYS look lousy in them.  (But, believe me, everyone, and I mean everyone can get at least one good photo!!!).  Get yourself a good red top or dress with a scoop neck that shows some décolletage.  Then either have a friend who is a good photographer take at least 100 shots of you, or go to a professional photographer and have some casual shots taken.  Make sure to wear some makeup, smile warmly and make eye contact with the camera (research shows that women who do that are rated as more attractive by men).

Just take a little time and do it and see what a difference it makes in the number and quality of guys you are meeting online.  You will be very pleasantly surprised.  This year of the Dragon may turn out to be one of the best years of your life.

And if you would like to have a free 40 minute coaching session by phone or Skype with your very own Love Mentor, where you can talk about improving your online photo or anything else that is urgent in your love life, just click here and fill out the form.

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-selling dating advice book, “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love and dating. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship Tips and Dating Advice Newsletter.

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