Beware of entrance to a quarrel. ~ Shakespeare
All couples belong to what I call the Fight Club because they almost all fight.  Couples that don’t fight are the ones that therapists worry most about.  In fact, couples who do not fight have double the divorce rate of those who do. Loving couples do air [...]

 
 Despite how important sex is to our well-being, many people are unhappy about their sex lives. A landmark 2008 study by the Journal of the American Medical Association found that 43% of American women and 31% percent of men admitted they had a sexual problem.  And usually these studies under-report the actual percentages because, let’s [...]

Sex is a wonderful gift to be enjoyed and shared by both of you.  Good sex promotes physical and mental health and the vitality of the relationship.  Sex releases endorphins, which elevate mood and lower stress and pain levels. So after having sex each partner associates feeling good with the other. Testosterone, the sexual hormone [...]

Perhaps you’ve met the One only to see him or her come on like crazy, but then pull back for no apparent reason. So all of a sudden, everything becomes murky and uncertain in terms of your relationship.  Are you a couple or not?  Has your partner met someone else?  Why are they running hot [...]

Personal Excellence: Four Keys to Love that Lasts
“All happy families resemble one another. Each unhappy family is unique in its grief.”
~Tolstoy, Anna Karenina
Personal excellence in your love relationship is not achieved by reading couples selfhelp books or dumping the problem partner you’re with and going on to the next grass-is-greener pasture to find the One. [...]

Six Tips for Boomer Dating Success
Let’s face it: Dating is daunting. And when you’re a Boomer, it may seem next to [...]

Do You Have Dating Dawdlitis?
Four steps will get you off the couch and on your way to the love you want!
You’ll do anything other than looking for a partner online [...]

Find New Love This Year
The 2009 Dating Plan
New Year’s Eve is coming fast. You’ll blow the horns, make a few toasts and get [...]

Fall Back to Love: The Autumn Dating Advantage
It’s easier to fall in love in the fall! Singles roll up their sleeves and work more [...]

Harness the Power of Positive Self-Affirmations
Research has repeatedly shown the power of positive self-talk, which is what most of [...]

Beware of Frenemies
These So-Called Friends Might Be Your Biggest Roadblocks to Romance
In the Sex & the City movie, Miranda functions as a friend-turned-Frenemy and helps [...]

Four “Sex & the City” Dating Types
Are you more like Carrie, Samantha, Miranda or Charlotte?
There are four common Deadly Dating patterns that single women struggle with: [...]

Five Secrets to Finding True Love: The Dating Program of Three
By Dr. Diana Kirschner
The best strategy you can use to succeed in finding true love is the Dating Program of Three. I have taught this dating and relationship approach to therapists, clients and students for more than 25 years and it has resulted in [...]

The Five Secrets of Getting Lucky In Love
By Dr. Diana Kirschner
Some people seem to have all the luck, especially when it comes to relationships.  Meanwhile many of you have had your hearts broken over and over and over again.  You wonder, what are the secrets to having luck in love? Well, here they are!  I’ve [...]

Combating Cabin Fever: Five Love Tips for Couples
By Dr. Diana Kirschner
When winter closes in and you’re closeted with your significant other, your relationship can turn boring, irritating or downright infuriating.  But you can turn this stuck-with-each-other situation into an opportunity—a great opportunity to have a breakthrough in your love relationship using just one of [...]

Five Tips for Coping with a Breakup
By Dr. Diana Kirschner
Being alone after a break up is a a true challenge.  Divorce or separation after a long relationship is the number two top life stressor following right behind being widowed. A severe loss can plunge you into depression and health problems.  So do not let [...]

Four Keys to Creating True Love
By Dr. Diana Kirschner
“All happy families resemble one another.  Each unhappy family is unique in its grief.” ~Tolstoy, Anna Karenina
Personal excellence in your love relationship is not achieved by reading couples love advice or self-help books or dumping the problem partner you’re with and going on to the [...]

Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?
Five Signs to Help You Know
By Diana Kirschner, Ph.D.
So you’ve been cheated on.  It was devastating–like being kicked in the gut and thrown into the gutter.  You couldn’t eat or function at work.  Or maybe you were up all night watching old movies, crying and eating pints of Ben [...]

Five Love Tips that can Save a Rich Partner, Poor Partner Relationship
By Dr. Diana Kirschner
In some couples the spouses have very different finances because one comes from a wealthy family and/or earns much more than the other.  The spouses may also have differences in their understanding of finance, budgets, cash flow, or the [...]

Dating Advice: Five Ways to Cope with the Holidays
By Dr. Diana Kirschner
Thanksgiving is coming fast.  Then Christmas and Hanukkah.  Are you doomed to a miserable holiday if your relatives drive you crazy?  What if you are just introducing your family to a serious date, someone who could be the One?  Does Aunt Millie [...]