Recent studies have shown that ninety percent of all communication is non-verbal.  Ninety percent!  So what you are NOT saying speaks volumes.  Now you probably have been in a situation before where you seen your dream guy and you would love to approach him but just can’t. Most women have the same feeling, and generally speaking, they prefer for the man approach them. So what can you do? People unconsciously give off signals, especially non verbal ones. You just have to be aware enough to make sure you are giving off the ones that you intend.

Chances are you are an attractive, highly intelligent women who has a lot to offer the right man in her life, but you just haven’t met him yet. By refining your non-verbal skills you can improve the number of men who approach you for dates, thereby increasing the odds of meeting your right match. And more importantly, you can direct your non-verbal cues to men you want to meet, letting them know you are available to be approached.

Here are some basic sure fire ways of letting a man that you are interested in know that you want to be approached.

1. Make eye contact. I do not mean that direct stare that you see in the cheesy chick flicks. It should be a subtle glimpse in his direction, make eye contact, and then look away.

2. He will notice, once he does, SMILE.  This will give him an invitation to say hello to you. This also shows that you open and friendly.  If he does not approach you then he is probably not interested. At least you will not be left wondering if you let an opportunity slip away.

3. Now let’s say you are lucky enough to chat with your dream hunk.  Continue using your non verbal tricks.  First be attentive, let him know that you are listening to him and what he is saying.  When you talk to him, touch him.  A gentle touch on the arm shows that you are interested in him.

4. Mirroring is another subtle method to create a feeling of bonding between two people. It naturally creates a feeling of rapport and trust. The trick here is to follow the other person’s movements with a 30-60 second delay. You do not want to be caught directly mimicking what he is doing. Behaviors that are OK to mirror include leaning forward, taking a sip of a drink, hand gestures when talking, tapping your foot, and facial expressions (smiling, raised eyebrows, or looking away).

Keep in mind that if you are doing your best with non-verbal communication, but it just does not seem to be working, then it may be time to change your focus. Try it with another guy to see how you do. It will take some practice to feel natural and at ease, but the effort you put into refining your non-verbal skills is well worth it.

For more helpful dating tips especially on how to find your dream Indian partner, check out www.indiandatingtoday.com

And don’t forget: You can learn EXACTLY how to Find,  Attract and Date terrific guys and create Lasting Love that is just right for you by subscribing to my Dating Tips & Relationship Advice Newsletter, absolutely FREE!

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D.

♥ Relationship advice from my heart to yours ♥

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & best-selling author of “Love in 90 Days” (dating advice book)” out now in paperback (at Amazon) with a new chapter on “Dating Games Men Play.” Love in 90 Days was the basis of her PBS Special on love. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE relationship & dating advice newsletter.

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At this amazing event for singles, I will guide you to find out:
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• How to access your most charismatic and confident identity or Diamond Self.
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Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal will help you
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Debra Berndt will reveal:

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Dr. Diana Kirschner ♥ Relationship advice from my heart to yours ♥

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xoxo Dr. Diana

♥Relationship Advice from My Heart to Yours♥

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & best-selling author of “Love in 90 Days” (dating advice book)” out now in paperback (at Amazon) with a new chapter on “Dating Games Men Play.” Love in 90 Days was the basis of her PBS Special on love. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE relationship & dating advice newsletter.

One of 16 Guys’ Dead-End Dating Patterns from the new chapter, Dating Games Men Play, in the paperback version of Love in 90 Days!

You meet him at yoga, at a retreat or through your spiritually-minded friends.  Sweet and sensitive—he is a dream-come-true: he looks deeply into your soul, giving you the best eye contact you’ve ever had.  He gets five stars for being cute, in great shape, listening, being very spiritual and possibly on your very own path.  Maybe he even teaches at the yoga studio you go to frequently.

Yes, he is soft, sensitive, conscious and gentle….too gentle.  Try as you might, there is never that masculine spark, that sexy-aggressive come-on, that cocky walk and talk that gets your pulse racing.  You have a serious crush and wait and wait in vain for it to happen.  But it never does.  Bottom line: this guy is more into his spiritual path than into dating.  And, while he is seductive and asks you to meet him for the latest in carrot juice drinks,  is studying that advanced meditation technique you love, and willing to give you the best Shiatsu massage you ever ever had, he is definitely not into you.

A variation of this theme which is very confusing is the guy who uses his spiritual platform to sleep around with as many women as possible. Usually he convinces you that he is not really interested in sex, but only what it can do for the two of you spiritually.  This type of New-Ager is actually a closet Player!

Jorga was a spiritual raw foodist who experienced a round of “dating” with a New Ager:

Ray-El was giving a lecture on green living at the local health food store. I couldn’t take my eyes off him—his face was so healthy and radiant!  There was this cleanness, this innocence about him that I fell in love with immediately.  I signed up for a lecture series he was giving and hung around with him after every meeting.  When he asked me to teach him how to go raw, I was thrilled—after all, my last boyfriend had broken up with me over the whole raw food thing!  Ray-El came over to my apartment. I made him my best feast, from uncooked soup to dessert nuts.  He told me he was studying tantric yoga—and I was a goner.  He was the gentlest lover ever and I was in heaven.  That is until I found out this was Ray-El’s standard M.O. with every woman under the age of 30 in our whole green community.

New Ager Warning Sign:  He is very spiritual and there is either no chemistry whatsoever or he’s in a hurry to explore Tantra and other sexual practices.

Degree of Difficulty: 7 (out of 10!) Ladies stop wasting your time unless he becomes “enlightened’ and decides to make room for a relationship!  Although he is super seductive and a real hottie, you are wasting your valuable time. 

Read more  about the other dating games men play and what to do about them in the bestselling paperback dating advice book, Love in 90 Days, on sale now!

Plus, you can learn the latest on EXACTLY how to Find,  Attract and Date terrific guys and create Lasting Love by subscribing to my Dating Tips & Relationship Advice Newsletter, absolutely FREE!

Wishing you the greatest love,

Dr. Diana

Relationship advice from my heart to yours. ♥

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & best-selling author of “Love in 90 Days” (dating advice book)” out now in paperback (at Amazon) with a new chapter on “Dating Games Men Play.” Love in 90 Days was the basis of her PBS Special on love. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE relationship & dating advice newsletter.

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