Dating for Over 50s -Advice for Women

This dating for over 50s blog is an interview with one of our awesome professional Love Mentors®, Karen Holland.  Karen is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist who specializes in working with couples and individuals getting in and out of relationships.  She works with couples to create passionate, fulfilling relationships.  She works with singles to help them heal from broken hearts and  find the relationship of their dreams. Now here’s Karen on dating for over 50s:

I work with lots of 50 plus women looking for love and I’ve come to the conclusion that women of this age, in general, are by far the most interesting, accomplished, and sexy. Once a woman reaches her middle years she often has the self possession it takes to really know what she wants.  She’s lived through a multitude of experiences and is less plagued by the anxieties that consume the minds of younger women.  She may have raised children, been divorced a time or two or, perhaps, has never found love.  But she has learned about herself in the process. In this way, mature women are in the perfect place to find real, lasting love.

News Flash:  Tune into Karen as she is interviewed on the nuts and bolts of successful dating for over 50s on our Love in 90 Days- Blogtalk radio show, live on November 22!   (And archived thereafter!)  To listen, Click Here!

Still women, as they age, face certain realities. They may have been out of the dating game for a while. They may not understand these new ways to date. It can all be a little intimidating. They wonder if men only want to be with younger women. They wonder if they have to “put out” and when. Some look at their changing bodies and say “To hell with it; I better just stay home.”  If they’ve been looking for a long time, these sometimes highly successful career women, are burnt out and certainly turned off by men who have either played badly with their hearts over the years or are simply just too boring!

For these mature women whom I love to mentor, I give the following advice in dating for over 50s:

1. Mind the Frump- It is incredibly important to make yourself beautiful in your own eyes. It’s not about competing with younger women. It’s about bringing out what women over 50 undoubtedly have- sex appeal. Really. Update your haircut and your wardrobe. Tone your arms and strengthen those legs (very important anyway to avoid that walker when you’re 80!).  Check out books like Younger Next Year (for Women) by Crowley & Lodge which makes the whole diet, exercise and aging thing incredibly simple (and very funny).  For beauty help, I love Charla Krupp’s books How Not to Look Old and How to Never Look Fat Again.
2. Get online! -  Did you know that the largest group to try online dating is 55 and over?  Everybody’s online these days.  In addition to the big dating sites like Match.com, PlentyofFish.com and eHarmony.com, which offer dating for baby boomers and dating for seniors, check out seniorpeoplemeet.com and silversingles.com as well.
3. Keep those legs crossed (for now) –  Don’t jump into the sack so quickly. Yes, you went through the sexual liberation movement but it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t keep a little mystery and a make a man work harder for you.   And, yes, you do have to worry about STDs and HIV.  In fact, in 2005 15% of all new HIV cases were in people over 50. Additionally, older women are more susceptible to STDs because they can have lowered immune systems, thinning vaginal walls and are much less likely than younger women to bring up the subject of STDs with their potential lover.
4. Play, Play, Play! – As a dear friend of mind says, “Sit loose in the Saddle.”  If you approach dating like a delightful experiment, the world as your playground, it will be so much more fun and you will experience much less burnout.  You don’t have to do it perfectly. You just have to get out there and not take yourself and dating so seriously. Though, I do want you to take the business of love seriously! For what is life without love?
5. Don’t Do it Alone! -  Read good books, like Dr. Diana’s Love in 90 Days which has a special section for women over 45 and her new book Sealing the Deal to help navigate a relationship with a potential life partner.  Get a Love Mentor ®! Stop trying to do everything on your own (Come on, you know you do!). Finding love can be challenging and it helps to have someone by your side guiding you and cheering you on.

Follow these dating advice and just get yourself out there. I’m pulling for you,

Karen Holland

You can get your own one-on-one free 40 minute Love Mentoring® Session with Karen by phone or Skype! Just click here  & fill out the form, requesting Karen.  Hurry–her time will fill up quickly!

Tune into Karen as she is interviewed on the nuts and bolts of successful dating for over 50s on our Love in 90 Days- Blogtalk radio show, live on November 22!   (And archived thereafter!)  To listen,Click Here!

“Finding Love After 50 – Without Being Turned Off Or Burnt Out” -The interview with Love Mentor® Karen Holland

DATE: Tuesday, November 22, 2011      TIME: 5:00 pm Pacific/8:00pm Eastern for one hour

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     In this free dating for over 50s seminar you will discover . . .

• What the “new rules” are now in dating for over 50s
• The myths that keep you single and alone
•  How to spot a good guy when you see him
• Avoid getting burned out and turned off when seeking love and companionship
• The keys to successful dating for over 50s
• The best way to reinvent yourself and emerge as a brand new dating you
• And much, much more  . . .

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Thank you, Karen for your wise words and dating for over 50s advice. If you would like a free 40-minute love mentoring session  by phone or Skype with Karen, click here or go to www.lovein90days.com/coaching and ask for Karen on the form. For more information about this and future Love Mentoring® Seminars please visit-
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Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana

♥Dating Tips & Relationship Advice from My Heart to Yours♥

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-selling dating advice book, “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love and dating for over 50s. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship Tips and Dating Advice Newsletter.

Summer’s fading away can lead to a dip in your mood.  When it turns cloudy and the air is cooler it may be a bit of a let down when you realize that winter and the holidays are just ahead.   But there is also good news when the weather turns. And I don’t just mean the amazing foliage, crunchy apples and fresh pumpkin pie.  In my experience, it’s easier to find love in the Fall!  There are three reasons for this. First, singles, like all of us, raised in the rhythm of a school calendar, are conditioned to buy new wardrobes and give themselves a mini-makeover in the fall—so they feel more attractive and ready to go for it.  Second, for around the first 20 years of our lives, including preschool and college, we are encouraged by our families to socialize in autumn as we enter a new grade with new peers. This form of conditioning tends to shape our behavior even when formal schooling ends.

Finally, the fall is a signal that the holidays are coming up and nothing can be more depressing than facing another round of holidays alone. This realization mobilizes singles to roll up their sleeves and work more proactively on their dating, so there’s more love to go around. In fact, two studies have shown that dating in the fall can lead to increased romantic involvements later in the year.

Fall also provides an influx of new students for graduate school and college dating. Being in a new dorm or school often creates loneliness and social anxiety and increases the need to form a love attachment in order to feel secure. But for you students going back to school, and especially those leaving home for college, don’t commit the single biggest mistake singles make: hooking up and coupling too soon. Play the field and don’t get boxed into a committed relationship before you have a chance to learn more about yourself.

So, no matter what your age, Fall is a great time to network. The secret to falling back to real love is to take advantage of all the new connections by networking and meeting as many people as possible. My Dating Program of Three is a powerful strategy that has you date three people casually with no sex and is your ticket to a real relationship. Meet as many people as possible: use the Autumn dating advantage!

You can learn much more about this topic and how to create love that is just right for you in my best-selling dating advice book, Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love.

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed new relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-selling dating advice book, “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship Tips and Dating Advice Newsletter.

Here is another treat in the dating advice for women series!  A true (or should that be “True Blood” ? dating story from one of my students!  Enjoy!

Vampire Bill

Have you ever seen True Blood, a HBO show based on the Sookie Stackhouse book series? Well, it’s all about a virginal clairvoyant named Sookie and her encounters with supernatural beings like vampires, especially one sexy and virtuous vampire named Bill. She became immediately enamored with him because she could not read his thoughts. Finally! A man with whom she could relax and enjoy quiet reflection. On the flip-side, Bill could “glamor” any human he wanted something from…except Sookie. They were drawn to each other simply because their natural gifts were useless and they could just be themselves.

I had my own run-in with a man I will call Bill for this very reason. I spotted him staring from across a crowded concert. Usually men in my city aren’t so forward as to stare directly and intently, so I assumed he was from out of town. After sneaking a few more glances his way, I determined he was alone… and very handsome. I got a wonderfully sweet and sincere “vibe” from him that I will account to my affinity for “New Agers” so I waved him over. He immediately hit it off with my wide group of friends and I. We had wonderful conversation and danced the night away. Bill was in town from LA to see the Dalai Lama, and so he left a bit early to join the group meditation led by his holiness early the following morning. Of course he didn’t leave without requesting my number and a dinner date the next evening, another assertive quality that I find to be rare in men in my city.  It felt especially magical because I had just begun researching a career change and relocation to LA… go figure! I was totally blinded by his halo of goodness and the synchronicity of events.

Over dinner he told me all about his passion for healing and enlightened pastimes like Aikido martial arts and Tibetan Buddhist meditation, teachings and retreats. He worked as a trainer for the elderly and pursued a masters degree in Chinese medicine. He also informed me that he was not open to a relationship having just broken up with his girlfriend of 5 years, but he would open his heart to me, just as he would to any person he connected with as part of his spiritual practice. We shared things only old friends would and had wonderful, insightful conversation deep into the night. After dodging his advances a few times I finally let him kiss me. He was so humble, gentle and sweet. I trusted him immediately and completely.  I have to admit with that kind of chemistry jolting through my veins, I was hooked.

I travel quite a bit for work and so I wished him a good nights sleep,  safe travels and hopes that we could meet again in his hometown. He agreed that it would be really fun to hang out again. Over the weeks that followed our first date up until the days before my expected arrival in LA, he called, emailed or texted me every day, as frequently as his schedule would allow. I was flattered, but more than that, I was impressed with his ability to stay neutral while we discussed several topics that struck deeps chords in my soul and caused some emotional upheaval. He assured me there were no judgments and that it was safe to tell him anything. For the first time I felt like I could just relax and enjoy my reflections without causing anger or judgment. I was wrong.

Things unraveled when I expressed my distaste for his use of my photos to pleasure himself. By the 3rd time I mentioned my displeasure, he told me I was selfish and that I was projecting my sexual problems onto him. We had an argument. With my very best Diamond-Self judgment in tact, I sincerely felt I had expressed fear, sadness and disinterested feelings, not anger or judgment in hearing about his personal habits. He ranted about how he could always “glamor” any girl he wanted and that he always got into these type of arguments and issues because I wanted more than he could give. I felt like he was attributing every other dating relationship issue he had ever had to our dating relationship. When I backpedaled and tried to transition our connection into friendship, he told me he did not believe in friendship between men and women. We talked through it, but I was a bit unnerved and decided not to disclose anymore of my problems, at least not until I felt I could trust him again.

A week of more funny inside jokes and conversation passed and so I shared my travel itinerary to LA with him. We made arrangements for another date. Our connection was definitely romantic, but I had told him he should not expect sex. One solid month of intense conversation over the phone felt like several dates to me, but he has still not mentioned any interest in a commitment with me. Of course in my mind, that commitment and love connection might still happen once we spent time together again in person and then I would definitely want to sleep with him. The possibilities still felt endless to me, even though the writing was on the wall!

Our second argument was our last. I was trying to fit our date into my day off of work in LA, which was planned around his schedule. When his schedule changed, he asked to change our date. As we discussed the details of his long commute times in traffic and issues with dog ownership, he mentioned that his ex could not watch the dog for the day because it would be inconsiderate to ask her to take care of his responsibilities while he was “off banging some chick.” At first I took it as his sense of humor, but it did not sit well with me for obvious reasons. The old me would have hoped it was just a joke and brushed it off, internalized the blow. With my diamond self in full effect, I told him that he needed to watch his language and treat me with respect. He told me “I can’t handle this” because he was sick of all our “negative interactions” and “couldn’t give me what I wanted” and that he was “not open to debate the issue any further.”

At that point I realized we never talked about what we wanted. We talked about what he DIDN’T want and we talked about my problems. No wonder things were so messed up! He thought I was just some chick with a whole lot of baggage who didn’t have any expectations whatsoever. I told him I cared about him as much as I cared about all my friends and loved ones, but that I simply could not tolerate disrespect.  I have not heard from him since.

In the end, like Sookie, he was not able to glamor me, but only thanks to you, Dr. Diana. If he and I should ever encounter each other again, I can at least respect myself enough to know that I was not just another woman he used for sex with while recovering from his breakup. Also, I’ve learned to take men for face value. From now on I will not be glamored by their sweet actions when their words spell out something completely bad for me: “I’m not open to a relationship” plus meaningful conversation and phone calls, letters, dates, paying for dinner, making plans and constantly texting sweet nothings all day, everyday does not mean he’s looking for love or a commitment. It means he looking for sex and HE’S NOT INTO A RELATIONSHIP…period! Hopefully one day soon I’ll meet a man who respects me and loves me for standing my ground and does not shut down or run off. Until then, here’s a funny glamor scene from True Blood: http://youtu.be/subXGkZKD-w

Many thanks,
“A”

Thanks so much, “A”!!! Hope you enjoyed this awesome dating story!  For lots more on developing your empowered charismatic Diamond Self and taking charge of your dating and love life, pick up a copies of the bestselling books Love in 90 Days and Sealing the Deal:  The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love.  And please drop me a line about your success!!!

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana

Dr. Diana Kirschner        ♥Dating and Relationship Advice from my Heart to Yours♥

“A soul mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other.”  Richard Bach

A question that I’ve been asked a lot is: “How can I tell if he’s my soul mate?” Followed by, “Can you really know for sure?” I have a whole chapter in my new relationship advice book, Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love, loaded with checklists and quizzes to help you figure out whether your partner truly is the One.  Here, hot off the press, are a few highlights on the soul mate question, adapted from that chapter.

Maybe you also believe that there is a soul mate out there for you. If you said yes, you’re not alone. Studies have shown that more than 90 percent of young adults believe in the concept, and 88 percent believe that destiny has determined that there is one and only one person who is your soul mate.

Amazing, considering that the idea is thousands of years old. In The Symposium, Plato described the soul mate as the person’s “other half” that has been split from him. The quest of life is to find that missing half, that twin flame. The theme has been exploited in movies like The Butcher’s Wife, The Time Traveler’s Wife, and City of Angels. Other views of soul mates include reincarnation and that the person is someone with whom we have shared other lives. The movie What Dreams May Come beautifully explored the profound connection that may continue after the death of one’s Beloved.

But the soul mate idea also carries with it the belief that a perfect person exists for us; if only we could find him or her, then love and life would be easy. This last belief has gotten people into a lot of trouble, especially in the area of commitment. By insisting on finding a perfect partner, many women have walked away from really great potential partners. Why? Because something was missing. Maybe it was chemistry, or maybe he didn’t match her ideal of the One, and so on. So they’ve ended up alone, still looking for that perfect soul mate. No wonder, then, that the renowned family psychiatrist Frank Pittman once said, “Nothing has produced more unhappiness than the concept of the soul mate.”

So what does science have to say about all this? Psychologists have found that people fall into two groups on the question of what makes for a successful relationship: Group one believes it’s based primarily on finding the “right person” (soul mate); while group two believes in the “work at it consistently” approach to lasting love. The soul mate group believes that choosing the right person helps overcome most of the problems that love throws our way. And if it doesn’t go so easy, we must have picked the wrong person. Therefore, on to the next partner. The “work at it” group believes that there are no perfect princes or princesses and that we are all works in progress. Therefore, a lasting love relationship is never an easy process, and we shouldn’t ever expect that.

Having been a psychologist for more than twenty-five years, and married to one man for the same long stretch, I can tell you that there are no perfect partners out there. Not me. Not my husband. Not any of my many clients, mentees, friends, or family members. Lasting love is a hard-won battle of personal discipline, compromise, dedication, and commitment.

But neither is everyone a good match for us. For example, there is research about scent and other physical traits playing roles in sexual attraction or desire. Other research shows that those who are of similar educational levels are more compatible. Therefore, while the one-perfect-person idea can lead to a long road of disappointment, there are certainly better and worse matches for us. If we are with a more compatible person, we are more likely to have the experience of being with the One who is a soul mate.

Chances are very good that there is more than one person—in fact several “Ones”—who could fit the bill for you. And all of them are less than perfect. But if there are no perfect partners, how can you know whether your current partner can fit the bill as a soul mate? Here are eleven relationship markers to help you know to what degree he is one of the Ones:

1.      When you’re with him you feel like you’ve come home.

2.      You feel like your partnership was meant to be; as if kissed by destiny.

3.      In your communication with each other, there is a rapid “knowing” of what each of you means.

4.      You have a shared mission in life, perhaps a cause, a career, or the creation of a family.

5.      When you’re together, the world seems like a better place.

6.      Your mood is elevated when you’re together. It’s not necessarily passion or excitement, although that’s there, too, at times.

7.      When you look at him, you see a part of yourself that’s been missing. Perhaps it’s his assertiveness or joy of adventure. But it’s something that, when added to your life, makes you feel more complete.

8.      Being together makes you more hopeful about the future you are creating.

9.      You can be more authentic and fully yourself around your partner.

10.  Being together makes each of you work harder on overcoming bad habits and becoming more loving people.

11.  These special qualities of connection are growing over time, not disappearing completely or diminishing.

Don’t worry if you don’t feel all eleven of these things happening when you’re with your partner. That’s where the imperfection comes in—either in you or in your partner. If you are experiencing six or more of these markers, chances are you are matched well. Over time you can work toward having all eleven of these soul mate qualities.

Bottom line: There are probably a number of guys who could click with you in a magical way as your soul mate. But if you are experiencing some magical moments of communion with your boyfriend, he could be the One of Ones. The connection usually happens in a variety of different ways. So stay open! To learn much more about soul mate connection, understanding the minds of men, and how to create commitment and lasting passionate love, pick up a copy of Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love.  Simply buy your copy online or at a bookstore and then fill in your purchase info at http://www.lovein90days.com/your-bonus-gifts/ and you will instantly get many wonderful free bonus gifts from my friends, Arielle Ford, Dr. Christiane Northrup and other self-help and relationship experts.  Oh, and of course, I have some special gifts for you as well.

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed new relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-selling dating advice book, “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship and Dating Advice Newsletter.

With thirty million unique visitors per month on U.S. dating sites alone, your chances of meeting the One online have never been better.  Even if you are over 40. But to get the most of your online dating experience, you’ll need to generate a lot of matches and expect to go through a number of DUDs (Definitely Unworkable Dudes) before you get to the STUDs (Seriously Terrific, Utterly Devoted Dudes) .  My six secrets of online dating success will teach you how to sort through a large number of guys quickly, with minimal emotional reactivity in order to meet the good prospects.  And there are some great ones out there!  Our students have met holistic doctors, lawyers, talented writers and even celebrities and guys worth millions online.  Most importantly, they have met great partners who were just right for them.

In Part 1, I’ll show you how to create the all-important photo, the look that will magnetically attract lots of guys to you. In Part 2 we’ll cover your screenname and profile, sites to join, how to describe your ideal match and secrets of search engine optimization. You will be very pleased at how many interesting guys you will attract online if you try just a few of these tips!

1. Your Photo is Everything

 Men are visual creatures.  When they scan women’s profiles, they sort based on photos.  Especially when you are over 40. According to Match.com, men are 14 times more likely to look at a profile that has a photo.  They can’t help it—this visual scanning behavior is based in their biology.  When men look at the faces of beautiful women, the part of the brain associated with dopamine — the all too powerful falling-in-love chemical of love — actually increases in activity. Men consciously and unconsciously choose beauty because it gives them a better chance at healthy reproduction.  Beautiful women are often healthier women with the right amount of estrogen.  I know this may offend you, but you can’t fight biology.

You can make it work in your favor, however. So first and foremost, you must put time and energy into getting your best photo for your profile.  You want a GREAT head shot of you, with no one else in the photo.

If you’re thinking, “I’m not exactly Angelina Jolie — there go my chances!” think about all those makeovers you’ve seen in magazines and on shows like What Not to Wear: everyone is beautiful; it just needs to be brought out. You have to find your signature look: the hair, makeup and clothing that make you pop. Here’s how to create your look:

• Work on your haircut and get your make-up done or do it yourself so that you look and feel your best.  Most men like soft, longish, touchable hair and make-up that is not too obvious or overdone.  Splurge on getting an updated haircut from a trendy salon.  Get your makeup done for free at a high-end department store. (You don’t need to buy their high-priced products—duplicate the colors with drugstore brands if your budget is tight.)  Make sure you are surprised and happy about how good you look.
• No matter if you have A cups, or DD, buy or find a flattering top that has a scoop neckline—you want to show skin up there, although not too much.  You want to look beautiful, with a touch of sexiness, as men like a hint of sexuality in a serious partner. However, avoid slutty.
• If beautifying does not come naturally to you, get help from a Love Mentor™ (more on this below).  If you have played out the Hermit or Just Buddies deadly dating patterns, definitely do some work with a Mentor before your photo shoot. While you’re readying yourself for your photo, learn how to recreate your look for your dates.

Taking the Photo

• Have a friend who is a fabulous photographer take 100+ headshots of you to find one that is so good it surprises you.  Make sure you take at least 100; although it sounds like a lot, the whole process will get you over the hump of holding back or being shy on camera.  You can also have your photo done by a professional photographer who knows how to interact playfully and help his/her subject be real. If you take this route, make sure your photo looks casual.
• If you are having trouble loosening up, deliberately take some ‘bad’ photos where you are overly serious or silly.  This technique, used by professional models to warm up for a shoot, will get you into play mode and guarantee that some good pix will be snapped.

• Make your photo warm and inviting.  As you look at the camera think about your love intention, i.e., something like, I give myself a warm, loving life partner.  Or imagine that a man you really love is giving you the biggest compliment!  Think about whatever brings a twinkle to your eyes and gives you a real smile.  Try heightening the contrast to make your photo pop.
• Take a second or third picture that shows you in your element—whether that is at the top of a mountain or with your beloved pooches.  Again, do not include photos with others.
• Take some full-body shots that are flattering to your figure. Experimentally add the best one to your profile to see how that affects your responses.

OK, I know putting all this work into photos or profiles may make you annoyed or squeamish about having to sell yourself.  But this is what it takes to go for it. You need to shine and distinguish yourself from others.  You did it to get into college or grad school.  You did it to get the job you wanted.  Now do it to get the love of your life.  If you want to ditch your single days you have to put your best self out there.  Period.

The truth is, when my Love Mentoring students do this process, their self-esteem skyrockets!  48-year old Liz puts it this way:

I worked on my hair, makeup and got a gorgeous outfit to have my photo done by a professional.  When I saw it I was blown away!  I’m a hottie now!  Still go back and forth sometimes, but the hottie comes out more and more and is here to stay forever (at least until I’m 90)!

There are many other secrets to making online dating sites produce top-quality guys for women over 40.  If you really want to fast forward your success online and learn all the simple secrets that have helped many women in their 40s, 50s and 60s find the One, then I have great news for you. My expert Love Mentors™ will teach you these easy-to-use strategies and help you develop photos, screennames and profiles that will make you stand out. And it’s included in my love mentoring package. Better yet, if you like, I will personally review your online presence at no extra cost. To introduce you to this service and for a limited time you can have a FREE 40-minute coaching session with an expert Love Mentor by phone or Skype.  If you really want to maximize the results of your online experience talk to one of my incredible Mentors. Each one has a long background in transformational work, is in a committed lasting love relationship (so they walk the talk) and is closely supervised by me.  Most importantly, each Mentor knows how to help you online and off-line so that you move forward to the love relationship you really want!

The best news is that we can give you an introductory 40 minute one-on-one personalized session by phone or Skype for FREE.  Just click here or go to www.lovein90days.com/coaching/ to get your own personal FREE 40-minute session by phone or Skype ASAP.

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of  the highly acclaimed new relationship advice book, Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love and the best-seller “Love in 90 Days” (dating advice book). Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE relationship & dating advice newsletter.