Are you in a rocky relationship?  Feeling resentful, anxious, distant, or lonely in your situation?  Whether you have been dating two months or married 10 years, things can go south all too easily in a couple.  Yet there is nothing quite as painful as when things are falling apart, when you know that your love might be lost forever.  Can I turn it all around, you wonder?  Is it even possible now?

Well I have great news for you.  It is possible.  If you have the courage to go for it.  All you need is to follow my three simple steps and you can become super happy with your partner.  Here is the three-step secret sauce, adapted from my new paperback, Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love. It’s on sale now and comes with 30 awesome bonus gifts which you can claim at www.lovein90days.com/your-bonus-gifts

1.   Identify what I call your Relationship-Killer Beliefs.  These are beliefs like, “All men are jerks,” which kick in when you are in love that cause you to go on emotional rants in your mind instead of dealing with what is actually happening. Let’s look at a Relationship-Killer belief in action described in an email that Joanne, one of my readers recently sent me:

Dear Dr. Diana,

Sealing the Deal just saved my relationship. I was ready to break up with my boyfriend of 10 months because he was recently divorced and not meeting my emotional needs. I was out of town for the holidays and contemplating if this would be the last time we would be together. When I got to his house he had a big smile on his face and was so loving… but that wasn’t good enough for me. I had to punish him for all the times he wasn’t loving so I was standoffish.

  While sitting next to him watching the football game, I began reading your book, Sealing the Deal. I had already read Love in 90 Days. I read for several hours while completely ignoring his love and advances, something I’m always complaining that he doesn’t give me enough of. I finally got to the killer beliefs.  I had killer belief #5 “This is not exactly right.” and #6 “Relationships mean that one person has to give him- or her-self up”. But what really hit home was the research that unhappy couples discount their mate’s actions because they don’t think they have good intentions. BINGO! That has been me all the way. I want my boyfriend to behave a certain way and when he does, instead of encouraging him and being happy, I punish him because he wasn’t doing it all along! I am so thankful that he has loved me enough to not throw me out on my butt.  The first light bulb just came on! Because of all my killer beliefs in action we went to bed with a little tension between us. I kept laying there thinking, Joanne, you are so blowing it here. I also kept thinking negatively about my boyfriend lying right next to me and all he doesn’t do.  

2. After you have identified your Killer Beliefs, like Joanne did, journal about them and compare them to what is truly going on in your relationship. Let’s continue with her breakthrough story.

I got up about 3 a.m. because I couldn’t sleep because of a sudden head cold. I took your book into the kitchen with me and read it while getting some cold medicine. I wrote down my Killer beliefs and then made out a long list of all the great loving things my boyfriend had done.  I felt freed of an enormous burden.

 3. Create what I call a Love Intention, which is a one statement affirmation about the kind of super happy relationship you would like to create. If it feels right, also help create one for your partner. Let’s see how Joanne did it:

Then I got to the part about creating a Love Intention and focusing on what you “want” instead of what you don’t have. I created the love intention, “Jon and I have an exciting, fulfilling, growing, passionate, and nurturing relationship.” I kept meditating on this. When I got a negative thought about my boyfriend, I pushed it aside and mentally repeated the intention. Then I decided to make one for my boyfriend who is always trying to explain to me that he loves me but he needs his man time. I went back to bed.

 When we woke up I told him about my love intention and that anytime I had a negative thought about him or our relationship that I am going to meditate on my intention instead of what I don’t have. Then I told him that I created one for him to which he quickly replied, “You can’t do that.” But then I said,” Just hear it. I told him that the the love intention I created for him was, “Joanne and I have a growing relationship that is balanced with the perfect amount of togetherness and independence.” He loved it! He only wanted to add one thing. He said put “happy” in there so that it would read “a growing and happy relationship.” He kept saying it over and over until he memorized it. Then he said, “That really empowers me.”

 The rest of the morning was beautiful. We talked in bed. He made me breakfast. I put on cute clothes, fixed my hair, and put on a little makeup (something he likes). He told me I was so sexy. He was so attentive and loving (what I want). He asked me if I wanted to workout with him at my gym tomorrow (he’s hasn’t asked me that in 4 months).  When I was leaving he gave me a big hug and told me he’d call me later to see if I needed anything for my cold. Diana…. everything I wanted just materialized by making a shift in my thinking which came from following your book. I now realize that my man isn’t the problem, I am the problem! Over analyzing, being negative, and pushing him away.  I am so thankful to your book and that I picked it up and started reading it at just the right time. If not, I would have let this good man go.

So there you have it.   Use these three simple steps, Identifying your Relationship-Killer Beliefs; Journaling about them and what is happening in your relationship; and creating a Love Intention for you (and possibly your partner).  Then go ahead and enjoy your super happy love!

For more on Relationship-Killer beliefs, how to go from casual to committed, and how to move from love problems to solutions that deepen any love relationship (even after cheating), pick up a copy of Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love.  It’s on sale now and comes with 30 awesome bonus gifts which you can claim at www.lovein90days.com/your-bonus-gifts

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-selling dating advice book, “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love and dating. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship Tips and Dating Advice Newsletter.

Dating for Over 50s -Advice for Women

This dating for over 50s blog is an interview with one of our awesome professional Love Mentors®, Karen Holland.  Karen is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist who specializes in working with couples and individuals getting in and out of relationships.  She works with couples to create passionate, fulfilling relationships.  She works with singles to help them heal from broken hearts and  find the relationship of their dreams. Now here’s Karen on dating for over 50s:

I work with lots of 50 plus women looking for love and I’ve come to the conclusion that women of this age, in general, are by far the most interesting, accomplished, and sexy. Once a woman reaches her middle years she often has the self possession it takes to really know what she wants.  She’s lived through a multitude of experiences and is less plagued by the anxieties that consume the minds of younger women.  She may have raised children, been divorced a time or two or, perhaps, has never found love.  But she has learned about herself in the process. In this way, mature women are in the perfect place to find real, lasting love.

News Flash:  Tune into Karen as she is interviewed on the nuts and bolts of successful dating for over 50s on our Love in 90 Days- Blogtalk radio show, live on November 22!   (And archived thereafter!)  To listen, Click Here!

Still women, as they age, face certain realities. They may have been out of the dating game for a while. They may not understand these new ways to date. It can all be a little intimidating. They wonder if men only want to be with younger women. They wonder if they have to “put out” and when. Some look at their changing bodies and say “To hell with it; I better just stay home.”  If they’ve been looking for a long time, these sometimes highly successful career women, are burnt out and certainly turned off by men who have either played badly with their hearts over the years or are simply just too boring!

For these mature women whom I love to mentor, I give the following advice in dating for over 50s:

1. Mind the Frump- It is incredibly important to make yourself beautiful in your own eyes. It’s not about competing with younger women. It’s about bringing out what women over 50 undoubtedly have- sex appeal. Really. Update your haircut and your wardrobe. Tone your arms and strengthen those legs (very important anyway to avoid that walker when you’re 80!).  Check out books like Younger Next Year (for Women) by Crowley & Lodge which makes the whole diet, exercise and aging thing incredibly simple (and very funny).  For beauty help, I love Charla Krupp’s books How Not to Look Old and How to Never Look Fat Again.
2. Get online! -  Did you know that the largest group to try online dating is 55 and over?  Everybody’s online these days.  In addition to the big dating sites like Match.com, PlentyofFish.com and eHarmony.com, which offer dating for baby boomers and dating for seniors, check out seniorpeoplemeet.com and silversingles.com as well.
3. Keep those legs crossed (for now) –  Don’t jump into the sack so quickly. Yes, you went through the sexual liberation movement but it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t keep a little mystery and a make a man work harder for you.   And, yes, you do have to worry about STDs and HIV.  In fact, in 2005 15% of all new HIV cases were in people over 50. Additionally, older women are more susceptible to STDs because they can have lowered immune systems, thinning vaginal walls and are much less likely than younger women to bring up the subject of STDs with their potential lover.
4. Play, Play, Play! – As a dear friend of mind says, “Sit loose in the Saddle.”  If you approach dating like a delightful experiment, the world as your playground, it will be so much more fun and you will experience much less burnout.  You don’t have to do it perfectly. You just have to get out there and not take yourself and dating so seriously. Though, I do want you to take the business of love seriously! For what is life without love?
5. Don’t Do it Alone! -  Read good books, like Dr. Diana’s Love in 90 Days which has a special section for women over 45 and her new book Sealing the Deal to help navigate a relationship with a potential life partner.  Get a Love Mentor ®! Stop trying to do everything on your own (Come on, you know you do!). Finding love can be challenging and it helps to have someone by your side guiding you and cheering you on.

Follow these dating advice and just get yourself out there. I’m pulling for you,

Karen Holland

You can get your own one-on-one free 40 minute Love Mentoring® Session with Karen by phone or Skype! Just click here  & fill out the form, requesting Karen.  Hurry–her time will fill up quickly!

Tune into Karen as she is interviewed on the nuts and bolts of successful dating for over 50s on our Love in 90 Days- Blogtalk radio show, live on November 22!   (And archived thereafter!)  To listen,Click Here!

“Finding Love After 50 – Without Being Turned Off Or Burnt Out” -The interview with Love Mentor® Karen Holland

DATE: Tuesday, November 22, 2011      TIME: 5:00 pm Pacific/8:00pm Eastern for one hour

COST: No charge  JOIN US LIVE VIA: Telephone, Skype, and Replay Access-Click Here For Details

     In this free dating for over 50s seminar you will discover . . .

• What the “new rules” are now in dating for over 50s
• The myths that keep you single and alone
•  How to spot a good guy when you see him
• Avoid getting burned out and turned off when seeking love and companionship
• The keys to successful dating for over 50s
• The best way to reinvent yourself and emerge as a brand new dating you
• And much, much more  . . .

Please interact with us live during the dating for over 50s show by visiting:  Facebook.com/DrDianaKirschner
Twitter.com/drdiana or Blog Talk Radio Chat

Thank you, Karen for your wise words and dating for over 50s advice. If you would like a free 40-minute love mentoring session  by phone or Skype with Karen, click here or go to www.lovein90days.com/coaching and ask for Karen on the form. For more information about this and future Love Mentoring® Seminars please visit-
http://www.lovementoring.com

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana

♥Dating Tips & Relationship Advice from My Heart to Yours♥

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-selling dating advice book, “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love and dating for over 50s. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship Tips and Dating Advice Newsletter.

Today’s relationship tip  blog is written by one of our expert Love Mentors®, Karen Holland. Karen is also a licensed marriage and family therapist and is well-known in the Denver area. In the first half of this two-part essay she showed how communication is like plumbing and wiring in our homes; we take it for granted until it goes bad. In this blog, Karen shares ten relationship  tips for how to communicate about a touchy subject (without triggering a fight!)

Ten Relationship Tips for Talking About a Touchy Subject

1. Soften Your Start Up! –  If you go on the attack (or you start with a manipulative comment to get a certain outcome), you will get met with resistance or defensiveness.  And wind up mired in conflict.  Examples of how to soften start up:

“Honey, something’s been bothering me. Can we talk for a moment?”

“I know when we’ve talked about this in the past it hasn’t gone well, but I’d like it to be different this time.”

“Hey, is now a good time to bring something up? I’ve been bothered about something and just thought we should clear the air.”

2.      Use non-verbal gestures to keep the connection while you talk.  Lightly touch knees, hug, hold hands, offer a glass of water, help each other if in the middle of a task, etc.  This can be really soothing to someone who gets anxious when there’s tension between you.  Also, it might be better to talk side by side rather than face to face.

3. Try making a repair in the middle of the conversation if you see the conversation is not going in the right direction.  Repairs might be something like:

- “Oh! I didn’t mean to say it that way, can I start again?”

- “Wow, I really messed that up right now. I’m really sorry.” 

- “I don’t like how this is going. I’m afraid we’re going to start yelling like we always do.   -  Can we start over more calmly?”

- Humor or gentle teasing (especially poking fun at yourself) is a great way to ease tension.

4. Shift complaints into requests.  Instead of, “I hate it when you don’t wipe down the stove when cleaning up the kitchen” say, “Hon, will you wipe down the stove? I’d appreciate it.”

5. Don’t criticize, say something that manipulates their fears/feelings of shame or intentionally trigger them.  For example, don’t say, “Why do you always….” Or “You never…” or “God, you’re so….” If you do, try making an immediate repair.

6.  Don’t resist when your partner is sharing a concern or complaint.  If you resist, it persists!! You won’t allow your partner to get over his/her frustration or feel heard if you keep resisting what s/he is saying (by being defensive, criticizing in return, withdrawing from the conversation, etc.).  You don’t have to agree with them, but it goes a long way to validate what they’re saying. Examples of ways to validate and not resist:

 “Okay, I can see what you mean…”

“Okay, I really got what you said and how you feel about that… You feel this…”

“I know, I see your point…”

“Yes, I know, I do that sometimes”

“It must be hard feeling that way…”

7. Listen more than you talk. If you find yourselves feeling like you’re on two different planets when you talk, it’s probably because you’re not really listening to each other.  You may be lost in your own head or planning what you want to say next.  Remember, PRESENCE is what is most needed for good communication.

8. Learn to ask directly for what you want and need.  Stop wishing s/he would just “get it” and start asking for what you want to have happen.  Say things like, “I want you to hug me right now.”; “I would like you to tell me you appreciate how hard I work.”; “I want you to start planning more dates.” This one relationship tip can make a lot of great things happen in your love relationship!

9. Remember this is the person you fell in love with and your goal is to stay close and be happy. This means staying in line with your personal values when you communicate.

10. Don’t talk when you’re moderately to extremely upset or angry.  This is a critical relationship tip!  While it’s completely normal and healthy to get upset with each other, it does no good to talk about your issues when you’re too upset to talk well.  Signs up being too upset to talk:

-Racing pulse

-Flushed cheeks

-Tight chest, jaw, fists or arms

-Eyesight narrowing

-Stomach churning

- Crying uncontrollably

-Yelling or feeling like you want to scream, throw, hit

- Being lost in thoughts, past arguments or rehearsing your point of view over and over.

Top Relationship Tip Exercise*:

Practice Making Requests and No Resistance

1. Write down a common complaint (take it easy) and practice sharing it with your partner.  Pick an A and a B.
2. A – Start with sharing your feelings about it and then make a request. Remember to be soft, don’t attack, blame or criticize.
3. B – Validate and don’t resist what s/he is saying (remember, say things like “I see what you mean” or “Yes, I know I do that…”
4. Switch

*The point of this exercise is not to resolve issues but to share and learn that you can listen without resistance and bring up concerns without going on the attack.

Thank you, Karen, for your wise words and great relationship tips. If you would like a free 40-minute love mentoring session with a seasoned pro like Karen, click here or go to www.lovein90days.com/coaching.

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed new relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-selling dating advice book, “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship and Dating Advice Newsletter.

Today’s relationship advice blog is written by one of our expert love mentors, Karen Holland. Karen is also a licensed marriage and family therapist and is well-known in the Denver area. In the first half of this two-part relationship advice essay she shows how communication is like plumbing and wiring in our homes; we take it for granted until it goes bad.

Relationship Advice: How Bad Communication is Like Bad Plumbing

Communication in a love relationship is like the plumbing and electricity in our homes.  We take them for granted yet without them, we can function, but it’s not much fun or very easy. Yes, bad communication like leaky pipes or faulty wire can make life pretty ugly.

Ultimately, good communication happens when we are happy and close with our partners.  Have you ever noticed when you’re feeling connected, you can easily overlook how imperfect your partner might say things or that you just “get” what they’re trying to say?   And, have you noticed that when you’re feeling distant or resentful toward your partner, everything they say is somehow hurtful or misunderstood?  So, if you want good communication, work toward maintaining a close, happy relationship.  To read more about great relationship advice and  tips for maintaining a close connection, see Dr. Diana’s bestselling relationship advice book, Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love.

What is Bad Communication?

 We all know when it’s bad. The miscommunications pile up and we feel more and more frustrated. Bad communication sets us up for hurt feelings or unmet expectations.  Bad communication contains seven basic characteristics:

1. Resistance – The act of resisting most things your partner is trying to tell you, ask of you or suggest to you (especially around areas of health, finances, family matters, or self destructive behaviors).
2. Defensiveness  – The same as resistance but adding either blame, return criticism or avoiding the issue.
3. Stonewalling – Actively ignoring your partner when they’re talking to you either by leaving the room or turning head or eyes away (more than just distraction; an obvious act of rejection).
4. Arguing – Arguing isn’t effective communication. It isn’t necessarily bad or even a predictor of divorce; it’s just not good communication. It’s usually laced with defensiveness and criticism.
5. Listening through filters – We all have filters (intoxication, being too tired, emotionally triggered, etc.). The problem is when we don’t recognize or acknowledge them. Once acknowledged, we have a choice on how to respond.  See Part 2 of this article for relationship advice and information on filters.
6. Being indirect/unclear -  Human beings can get into the bad habit of being really unclear when they communicate.  We drop a hint and hope our partners pick up on it. If you want something done or heard, be very clear and specific.
7. Being Critical/Harsh/Name calling – This sounds like obvious bad communication but it’s labeled in our minds as things like: “It’s just how I feel!”  or “I was just mad.” But the damage of criticism, name calling or being harsh runs deep and too much of it can really destroy trust, closeness and respect in a relationship.

If you find yourself doing any of these seven bad habits, here is the most critical relationship advice: stop yourself and take a time out. You and your partner will be glad you did.

Thank you, Karen, for your wise words and great relationship advice. And don’t miss Part 2 tomorrow in which Karen gives ten relationship advice tips on how to communicate about a touchy subject.

If you would like a free 40-minute love mentoring session with a seasoned pro like Karen, click here or go to www.lovein90days.com/coaching. You can get tailored, key relationship advice that is just right for you and your  love relationship right now…so that you can reconnect with a loved one you might be losing.

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana

♥Relationship Advice from My Heart to Yours♥

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed new relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-selling dating advice book, “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship Tips and Dating Advice Newsletter.

Dating Advice for Women

Here are some excerpts from a live call-in radio show that I did on how to get the dating advice and relationship tips you need to create your own happiest-ever-after.  The truth is, no one does it all alone.  We all need support and help.  What has worked for me and thousands of other single women is to have a truly devoted, loving and knowledgeable coach.  A person who is wise in the ways of love,  who has your back, knows your dead-end dating patterns, in sum,  a  Love Mentor® who can help you get where you want to go.   Here are the questions and answers about this powerful process. xo Dr. Diana

Dating Advice: How to have Your Own Happiest Ever After

Q. What is a Love Mentor®?

A. A coach who provides one-on-one mentoring sessions by phone or Skype to help you find terrific partners, including the One, overcome relationship problems and ultimately create the lasting and committed relationship you want.  I have gifted Love Mentors™ who have strong  backgrounds in transformational work and have successfully used my program to overcome dead-end dating patterns and become/ stay happily married. Right now we are able to offer you a free 40 minute intro session by phone or Skype with a gifted Love Mentor® so you can experience really powerful dating advice. You can register by clicking here.

Q. Why is a Love Mentor® the single most important thing you can do for yourself?

A. Sometimes we need someone in our lives to help save us from ourselves, especially since we’re more likely to repeat than we are to change. Studies show that adults who are mentored are more successful in their careers—and love is no different. They also show that without a mentor, our chances at succeeding plummet to only 10% of the success rate of those that do use a coach. Love Mentors® will give you expert dating advice and help you develop self-love and positive self-talk, and help you flirt, develop confidence and find great partners so you can go from wondering if you will ever meet Mr. Right to the security of a fulfilling, lasting relationship.

Q. What about the end of a relationship? How can a Love Mentor® help me get my ex back?

A. Having a mentor can make all the difference! A professional Love Mentor™ provides support at such a difficult time, and can often help you get your ex back at a new level of commitment. although there are no guarantees, we have a specialized approach for this that has worked out beautifully so many times!  There are many couples who have been reunited in a deeper and closer way–who have healed even after an affair.

Q. Have you ever used a Love Mentor®?

A. Sure; Dr. Arthur Stein, a psychologist who originated many of the Love in 90 Days principles. When my husband, Sam, and I first married, it was compete at first sight! Arguing was both our middle names. I would have left Sam if not for my Love Mentor. But over 25 years, Sam and I weathered a family rift; the devastating death of a baby; a major illness; and all the times we seemed to go in different directions. I can vouch for the life-changing difference Love Mentoring makes in creating great love relationships.

Q. What happens during a Love Mentoring™ session?

A. Love Mentors® will help you uncover your Tough or Tender Loving Care needs in areas such as nurturing, envisioning and limit-setting. Together, you’ll explore your relationship goals and trouble spots, dating history, problems with your partner and self-sabotaging patterns.  You can work on getting your ex back if that is your goal. Your Mentor will personalize strategies, exercises, affirmations and dating advice techniques to help you envision and create the love life you want.

Q. What kind of results can I expect? Do you have real-life examples?

A.  We have numerous testimonials about women having great success in dating, meeting  wonderful partners and then “sealing the deal.”   For example, my love mentoring student, Midge Woolsey, who was the  on-air PBS Pledge Show host for my PBS Special, Finding Your Own True Love,  was a women in her fifties who got married for the first time to an amazing guy.  Our mentoring journey  is beautifully described in this NY Times article  http://www.nytimes.com/2010/08/08/fashion/weddings/08woolsey.html?_r=1    In another case, “Sally” completed a journaling exercise during one session with her Love Mentor, which helped shift her body image beliefs.  After she wrote down a new affirmation and recited it daily, she had such a passionate encounter with her boyfriend that he started talking kids.

Q. Can a Love Mentor® help me have “the Talk” with my boyfriend?

A. Yes. A trained Love Mentor® will teach you techniques to help you avoid projecting your fears onto your boyfriend, feel more self-confident and be clear about your goals. Your Mentor can also help you understand the science behind his commitment fears, teach you the best time of day to approach him and help you shape “the Talk” so that it unfolds without drama and is successful.

Q. I’m thinking about asking him to move in. How can a Love Mentor® help me decide?

A. While research shows that cohabiting unmarried couples face a 50% divorce rate, there are certain “shacking up” scenarios that can be successful. A Love Mentor will guide you through the decision by first helping you establish whether the preconditions for successful cohabitation exist. They will also help you banish killer beliefs that could sabotage your goals; create a Love Intention to guide and empower your decision-making; help you gauge your partner’s commitment level; and even help you have “the Talk.”

Q. I’m considering marriage. Why should I get a Love Mentor® now?

A. Congratulations! But first, a bit of bad news: research shows that troubled or unsatisfactory marriages can contribute significantly to a woman’s health and psychological problems. Ready for the good news? NEW research shows strong, happy marriages can reduce depression and improve longevity, mental and physical health, financial security and overall happiness. The key lies in properly evaluating your relationship goals and the health of your relationship before you take the plunge. A Love Mentor™ can help you weigh the research, assess your needs, understand how marriage affects men, explore alternatives and cultivate your Diamond Self so you can make an informed decision and create the results you want.

Q. How do I find a trained Love Mentor®?

A. To get a FREE Introductory 40-minute personal phone or Skype mentoring session with an expert Love Mentor®, just click here!

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & author of the highly acclaimed new relationship advice book, “Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love” as well as the best-selling dating advice book, “Love in 90 Days.” Dr. Diana’s revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE Relationship and Dating Advice Newsletter.