The Five Secrets of Getting Lucky In Love

The Five Secrets of Getting Lucky In Love

By Dr. Diana Kirschner

Some people seem to have all the luck, especially when it comes to relationships.  Meanwhile many of you have had your hearts broken over and over and over again.  You wonder, what are the secrets to having luck in love? Well, here they are!  I’ve worked as a psychologist helping thousands of singles get lucky in love.  And you can too—by using this critical relationship advice with five key dating tips to help you find the love of your life.

1. Trust your intuition!
For example, you meet someone and the chemistry is right on.  He/she is flirting all out or saying outrageously flattering stuff to you.  You think to yourself, it sounds sincere.  You want to believe what he/she’s saying is real and not just a come-on.  What you need to do, is step back away from that powerful gab, even for a few minutes and consult your inner voice.  That is, feel your gut reaction to this person. That’s where your phony baloney meter is.  Trust your instinct—it’s almost always right!  Don’t waste time with people who won’t ultimately come through for you.

2. Be still and in the now to find the lucky surprises and coincidences that can turn your love life on.
Most of us are rushing hectically around, getting work done, taking care of errands, running here and there.  We don’t take time to slow down and notice what is happening around us.  And so we may be sitting next to the love of our lives on the train or standing behind the ‘One’ at the grocery store and never actually speak to him or her.  In my book, Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love, I describe a Being-In-The-Moment exercise, where you take 10  minutes and  practice slowing down and paying attention to who or what is right in front of you. You would be surprised about the connections, lucky surprises and coincidences you will encounter if you pay attention to the people and things around you right now.
Say hello to a new person every day. He or she may be the ‘One.’  Even if they’re not, every person knows about 200 other people.  You never know what love connections may come from a whole new social network!

3. Practice being grateful. Especially for being who you are.
Every day make a list of three things that you appreciate about yourself—even if it’s something small or silly, like having a full head of hair, or your weird sense of humor.  Studies show that keeping a gratitude journal is associated with being happy.  Getting yourself to be happy to be you is the key to being relaxed and attractive to others.  We are all attracted to smiling, warm confidence.  So falling in love with  yourself is the first step in finding the love you seek.

4. Look for a good person who fulfills three requirements:

• The person is crazy about you.
• He/she is willing to grow and change along with you.
• He or she is a good person

You won’t be lucky enough to find a partner that is perfect right off the bat.  The reason is simple: No one is perfect and here’s a news flash: neither are you.  Therefore, choose a partner who is willing to grow, whether that involves going to school, therapy or just  getting a makeover.  If you choose a growing partner you will create a relationship that gets better and better over time: This is your ‘lucky’ ticket to great love.

5. Get yourself a loving mentor.
This is the most critical piece of relationship advice! Find a mentor, a person who you look up to, who is like a loving benefactor to you!  This is someone who believes in you and sees your attractiveness & your unique lovable qualities—a person who gives you courage to go beyond your fears.  Spend more time with this fairy godmother/father.   Take in what she/he says about you so that you can learn to think positively about yourself, irregardless of your wounds and problems. Love is very tricky and you have to keep your eye on these positives to get the treasure.  By focusing on the luck and love that is already coming your way you will turbo charge your own self-esteem and self-worth and find the relationship that is the gold at the end of the rainbow.

And to help you with this important process contact me ASAP because you can have FREE coaching from a trained Love Mentor by phone or Skype.  If you really want to change your future love life, talk to one of my incredible Mentors. Each one has a long background in transformational work, is in a committed lasting love relationship (so they walk the talk) and is closely supervised by me.  Most importantly, each Mentor is gifted and can help you move forward to the love relationship you really want!

The best news is that we can give you an introductory 40 minute one-on-one personalized session by phone or Skype for FREE.  No strings attached.  Just click here or go to www.lovein90days.com/contact/ to get your own personal FREE session by phone or Skype ASAP, because the time slots are filling up very fast.

In the meantime, dn’t forget to take advantage of my ongoing free support: You can learn EXACTLY how to flirt, overcome shyness, and build self-confidence, Find,  Attract and Date terrific guys and create Lasting Love that is just right for you by subscribing to my Dating Tips & Relationship Advice Newsletter, absolutely FREE!  And for all of our devoted readers in India please note that my book Love in 90 Days is on sale now and contains an abundance of techniques to overcome shyness, flirting successfully and most importantly finding and attracting your soulmate and is available in paperback.

Wishing you love,

Dr. Diana

Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & best-selling author of “Love in 90 Days” (dating advice book)” out now in paperback (at Amazon) with a new chapter on “Dating Games Men Play.” Love in 90 Days was the basis of her PBS Special on love. Connect with Dr. Diana through her FREE relationship & dating advice newsletter.

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