The Magic Lure of the Sex and the City Foursome
What is the enduring fascination women have with the Sex and the City characters? The great promo shots of our gals in the desert for Sex and the City 2 gives us clues about why these four characters are so beloved. Each one is so different–courageous, unique and self-expressed, from fashion to personality to choices in love. Each character goes all out for whatever is calling her. Carrie gets her elusive Mr. Big (although there will be troubles abrewing in the new movie on this front). Charlotte becomes a practicing Jew. Samantha triumphs over cancer and is still on her cougar prowl. Miranda is handling the challenges of balancing work and family life. In the new film the beloved characters will be having new desert adventures together. The foursome are living out loud, as usual, with their own natural charisma and personal style. Each is moving forward in her life, doing freely what many women dream of.
But more importantly these four represent an ideal that most women strive for, an ideal that is just about as important as grand romantic love. What is that? A lasting, supportive, healing, uplifting and validating love relationship between women. Carrie, Samantha, Miranda and Charlotte are the ultimate BFFs. Their relationship is the solid platform from which they dive into handling troubles with men, kids, cancer and more. Their deep bond with each other is a super buffer to all the slings and arrows of misfortune that life throws their way. As Samantha says to her compatriots: “We made a deal ages ago. Man, babies, doesn’t matter. We’re soul mates.” This is the ideal friendship women love to see and what they strive to create with their own girlfriends.
In my dating advice book, Love in 90 Days I describe how to set up this kind of extraordinary friendship group for single women—I call it a Team Love. You can come to your Team Love group for solace when you are hurt, be inspired by others’ wins and have a whole posse of women who encourage and cheer you on. The team can be a tremendous resource for you to learn about hot shopping, fashion, hairstylists, exercise classes, night spots and activities and more in your local area.
The best news is, if you live in the Manhattan area you will find ample opportunity to live the Sex & the City girlfriend experience! There are two Meet-up Team Love groups you can join for free. Join both at Love in 90 Days – Dating Secrets for Single Women and Love in 90 Days: The Queens Group They have many awesome singles activities. In these groups I have been completely blown away with how generous, caring and empowering the women have been toward each other. They develop a real life Carrie-Samantha-Miranda-Charlotte type of friendship. Here is a series of supportive, educational and inspirational emails going out to a Team Love Group:
Roz hits a down cycle as she starts to date and writes:
I am a dead mouse. I have had NO SECOND DATES at all. All my first dates seemed fun and enjoyable and I found things in common with each person. I must appear to have two heads instead of one or something like that.
Several supportive messages come back to her, including this one from Dyanne:
You’re NOT a dead mouse!!!! You’ve got to BELIEVE in yourself–So, you didn’t get a second date, no big deal because there will be more! You’ve got to look on the positive side of things, you had first dates. You are moving! And I haven’t even been meeting men.
Dyanne writes two weeks later:
Hello Team Love, Just wanted you to know that I am meeting men!!! I had a chance meeting with an amazing trader earlier this week and he called me today to make sure I was coming to his meeting Friday. And I met another walking down 46th St. at Madison Ave. We chatted for a few blocks and had a drink at O’Rourke’s. He is a lawyer from Memphis and asked if he could take me to the Opera when he comes back in a few months. The vibe is on.
Drew responds:
Your beauty is irresistible!
I experienced some serendipity on Friday night that inspired me. I went to a talk on spiritual partnerships at the Lotus Buddhist Center. During the break I noticed Tommy, a surf instructor who I met last June at a surf-yoga retreat. We’re going out. It’s a sign that I’m attracting men who are in alignment with me on a number of levels…spiritually, intellectually, artistically, physically, etc.
Let’s keep it going, Team Love
Sending love to all of you!!!
Drew
You can read much more about how to create a Sex and the City type of friendship group or Team Love for yourself in Love in 90 Days
Also, you can take a free special quiz and find out which Sex & the City Girl you are most like at www.MyDatingPatterns.com. The quiz will tell you which Deadly Dating Pattern you are playing out (whether you are more like Carrie, Samantha, Miranda or Charlotte!), that is, which type of dating and relationship behavior tends to sabotage your chances of lasting love. Even better, the free quiz also comes with a free customized bonus Report & Fix-It Kit for your Dating Type. So whether you see the movie now or later, make sure to learn your dating type and how to overcome any obstacles you might be facing on your road to love.
Wishing you love,
Dr. Diana
Diana Kirschner, Ph.D.
♥ Relationship advice from my heart to yours ♥
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